Well it’s been awhile, over a month in fact since I last posted. It’s strange the longer it goes without writing, the harder it has been to start again. I haven’t quit playing or anything though RL has been incredibly demanding taking up all my time of late and I’m sorry in advance that this post is going to cover some of that stuff too.
So firstly, I started a new job which was incredibly exciting because my old job was stressful, miserable and no matter what you did you never felt that it was enough. I’m still at the same company but in a position now that lets me be a little bit more creative and actually fix issues. My first task was to set up an internal WordPress blog so, yes definitely much more fun!
A week after I started in my brand new position I found out I was pregnant, which while exciting happened much faster than expected and made me feel a tad guilty considering I had only just stepped into a new role. At least it explained why I was nearly falling asleep at my desk every afternoon.
So I’m 10 weeks pregnant now, the morning sickness has well and truly kicked in and I’m seriously not looking forward to another 2 weeks of not being able to keep any food down and having a life that consists of getting up, going to work and then coming back home to crash…. just to begin it all again the next day. Where is this damn pregnant glow people are always talking about?
So I had been tossing up between getting demoted to raider or going the whole hog and becoming a casual. I wasn’t really sure which way I wanted to go, I knew I couldn’t keep being an officer it’s too much extra thought and worry. I also know that the only part of the game that I really enjoy is raiding. I love tackling new content, I love it when it’s hard the idea of not having that… I’m not sure whether I would still have any urge to play at all.
The straw finally broke when an officer re-invited a friend of his back into the guild as a casual. This friend had been a previous raider who had gquit so many times that it is a common joke within in the guild. I think the one that is most infamous was when he quit because he couldn’t get a summon to the raid instance. So this long term, known troublemaker decided to put in an application to raid with us. His avatar was disgraceful and Xeppe has already talked about similar ones in her post here. Basically it’s a gif of a woman unzipping her top until her breasts jiggle out. Seriously why someone would think that was a suitable avatar to use when applying to a guild I can’t fathom. On a side note what probably annoys me more is the same person who chooses to use that completely sexist avatar, thinks it’s appropriate to kick a person from their old guild for making a racist comment to another person. Why is it ok to be sexist but not ok to be racist? Surely they are both unacceptable and should be dealt with accordingly?
As a girl it can be really difficult to deal with situations like these. You say something to the guy and you’re seen as overly sensitive. You don’t say anything and you feel like your encouraging this sort of behavior to the guild in general. The third option I considered was finding a picture of a really gross penis and fighting fire with fire. I decided the chances of this backfiring were too high (and besides who wants to look at a penis avatar really?) and instead put in officer that it was offensive and could someone (I really didn’t care which of the guys) ask him to change it. I completely snapped the next day when I went to respond to his application with some questions because I’m all for believing people have rehabilitated. He changed his avatar to a little box that read: Oh dear, sorry I offended you… NOT.
So that was it, the final straw, an officer “disagreement” was had over how the avatar change had been handled and I decided then and there to just go casual.
So what am I going to do now?
Well to be honest I expect that the next 2-3 weeks will continue to be a write off with no game time. I’m hoping after that I can perhaps actually finish leveling Pixii or perhaps work on Loremaster before Cataclysm launches.
As much as I am really disappointed with the raiding changes on the horizon these will probably in the long run work in my favor and I’m half thinking that next year will see me on a US server raiding in a 10 man guild during the day while bub is asleep. I’d be interested in hearing how other WoW mum’s handle raiding with newborns if we have any readers that fit the description. Advice would be much appreciated!