Most of the time it doesn’t really cross my mind that I’m a girl gamer. I’m just another person in my guild and in my raid. I think about our progression and I worry about standing in the fire just like any other raider. No different than anyone else, right?
I got to work this morning and (procrastinating doing actual work) went and checked out our guild website. In the last 24 hours there have been some fairly active application threads and I wanted to see how some of them were panning out. I was thoroughly disgusted when I read some sexist comments on a new, public, applicant thread made by one of our newer raiders who only just got through his trial period. This comment makes me so mad I’m going to copy paste the text right over into this post… because frankly it speaks for itself.
ex Gravity player, not sure how far he got to… but from what i remember, the officers were not 100% satisfied. Not sure which one of you was playing, but dont think u played a vital role as a warlock in the guild. When eliria and patross.. u fall behind miles away. although patorss is very exp and geared lock.. eliria is a chick…and does better than you O.O beside the point…. i would always see you in the top 10 or top 15. so yea. dont think you can match vitare locks to be honest… but yea laterz
Oh my god I wish this guy would go die in a fire or something.
Does this represent the mindset of the other raiders in Vitare? I don’t think so! If I had gotten a response like that when I applied I probably would have withdrawn my application. As we are sorely in need of good ranged DPS at the moment, can we really afford to convey the wrong message on the current application threads? Absolutely not.
Forum Applications – What to Do and What NOT to Do
I am absolutely in support of open forum applications. Officers generally only play 1 or 2 classes each, so it just makes sense to have applications out in the open for other guild members with more knowledge of the applicant’s class to review, comment and ask questions.
What to do
- Check out their raiding achievements
- Check out their gear/gems/enchants
- Check out their reputation – do they have Sons of Hodir rep?
- Do they have 2 professions @ 450?
- Do they appear to understand their class and spec?
- Have they put thought into their online app?
- Can they spell/write in proper sentences/refrain from leet speak?
- Check out other similarly progressed guilds recruitment forums to see where else they are applying
- Check out what other guilds they have been in and length of time – no one wants a guild hopper
What NOT to do
- Don’t make unsubstantiated comments that they are a shit player
- Don’t tell them they play worse than a girl
- Don’t whisper their old GM and then make that conversation public
- Don’t pick apart a players gear/gem choices if you know fuck all about that class
- Don’t start a completely off topic argument with fellow guildies
Ok, I’ll admit I absolutely failed that last one.
Firing back at him in a rage over a public forum is perhaps not very classy. But in my defence this guy has been an idiot on mulitple occassions now and I wanted to make it clear that we were not all anti-girl-gamers.
This is what I wrote back in reply. I wish I had started a new, private, thread, but hindsight is 20/20:
seriously you manage to (continuously) push all my buttons wrong…. wtf does it matter if a chick is playing? You know that the majority of our healing team is female yeah? Are you just asking to die over and over again?
I hope karma gives you female managers your entire life and your future wife keeps you on a ball and chain.
FFS it makes me want to disable my microphone forever and just pretend to be a guy – what a sad world we live in.
Later on in the afternoon I was feeling much calmer. Then I went back to the forums. It took about 2 seconds for me to see red. This was my reply:
i know most of our healers are female. They are great and i am happy to be part of the team. what my point was…guys are usually better.. so dont QQ or /cry over it. Guys are better at games.. ITS A FACT.dont deny it. i am not being sexist or anything, i was just compering.
i run my own business so no female mangers for me..at least like urself. cuz you either got something against me or your attitude isnt right. obviously you have lots of soft spots.. or i am just good at getting them.
on the other hand. i love females. best thing to walk the earth. i was just pointing it in a games perspective.
dont hate.. <3 instead
Reading this reply still makes me angry. I don’t want to play with this guild member anymore. Where possible I’m not going to attend any 10 mans that have him in it. During 25 mans, for the sake of the overall raid, I’ll throw him a Swiftmend to stop him dying but that is it.
And if he complains I’ll just tell him I’m a girl and one of our male healers will have to heal him, because, well he’s obviously a better gamer than I.
And every time Cass beats him on the DPS metres now I’m going to be thinking “OMG he just got beat by a girl!” Now whether or not I should point that our to the entire raid, well I haven’t decided.